Here is a bit of Buddhist philosophy which will reduce unnecessary conflicts, minor
unintentional or intentional transgression, provocation, misrepresentation,spreading of
falsehood, rumours and outright provocation and be at peace with yourself.
The fundamental is to be AWARE. If it is true accept it, if it is negative be aware and correct, if untrue ignore it.
Lord Buddha was sitting under a banyan tree. One day, a furious
Brahman came to him and started abusing him.
The Brahman thought that Lord Buddha would reciprocate in the
same manner, but to his utter surprise, there was not the slightest
change in the expression on his face.
Now, the Brahman became more furious. He hurled more and more
abuses at Buddha. However, Lord Buddha was completely unmoved.
Actually there was a look of compassion on his face. Ultimately the
Brahman was tired of abusing him.
He asked, "I have been abusing you, but why are you not angry at all ?"
Lord Buddha calmly replied, "My dear brother, I have not accepted a
single abuse from you."
"But you heard all of them, didn't you?" The Brahman argued
Buddha said, "I do not need the abuses, so why should I even hear them?"
Now the Brahman was even more puzzled. He could not understand the
calm reply from Lord Buddha.
Looking at his disturbed face, Buddha further explained, "All those
abuses remain with you."
"It cannot be possible. I have hurled all of them at you," the Brahmin
Buddha calmly repeated his reply, "But I have not accepted even a
single abuse from you ! Dear brother, suppose you give some coins to
somebody, and if he does not accept them, with whom will those coins
The Brahman replied, "If I have given the coins and not needed by
someone, then naturally they would remain with me."
With a meaningful smile on his face, Buddha said, "Now you are right.
The same has happened with your abuses. You came here and hurled
abuses at me, but I have not accepted a single abuse from you. Hence,
all those abuses remain with you only. So there is no reason to be angry
The Brahman remained speechless. He was ashamed of his behavior and
begged for Buddha's forgiveness.
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